After a thunderstorm from school, I still function and feel released today. Actually I feel hopeful today. Probably it’s cause of the Indian milk tea and the cake. Anyway, life is full of hope, don’t give up, turn in the corner surprised are there for you to discover. Life may not beautiful bu surprised does. Try create more New things and opportunities, then life will full of surprised and it light make you happy everyday.
after a most dying day, i dark side of feeling turned out to be light. i think i am brilliant, cause i know that ever whole situation is kind of ridiculous but i still can manage it right. that is real, that is the ability that i am searching for.
Alain says worry about job is perfectly normal, thx 4 saying that it’s quite comfort since I have been out of career about 1.3year. So maybe I can enjoy the worry while I am fighting for my career.
I know you have something want to say, and I also knew that you got no one to say cause you know whoever you told it’s useless. There is nothing to anticipate but regrets.
So you better keep your mouth shut and say nothing.
We all tend to have a perfect lover. The one who will (taking) care of us, and love us forever and ever. But in the real world there is no such things. When one are responsbile then he or she might not so romantic. When somone whe are more tend to have romantic, then I bet he or she might not so working hard in their lives.
It sounds a little bit difficult for keeping love in our life, right. Cause since we can’t taking care of everything for a good love life then we might got no chance to live in a happy life. But we people still live and love in life, why is that? I think that is because we are all human, we need to live and we need to love also the sex as well. We people got the emotion, so we show people how we feel about things, also we talk or write down as well. Thus we create stories for ourself and our lives, then we might have audiences too. I think that is the reason of our life keep go on and on.
But what are everyone searching for in their life. For food for shopping for loving people or for career, to show the value of our lives. I don’t know everyone is different. For me, I am quite vague as well. I live according to the mood, my mood effected by the weather or the moon. It sounds like kidding, but I bet you not. Everyone is different though, but we all need love and need someone to cherish our lives to care of us. Am I wrong, are you? Or not?
- 網站：the book of life（創辦人：Alain De Botton）
- 作者：Alain De Botton
- 篇章：CHAPTER 3: RELATIONSHIPS: SEX
標題：Love and Sex
One of the great burdens which our Romantic culture has imposed upon long-term relationships is the idea that love and sexual fulfillment must always, if things are working as they should, fit neatly together. This beautiful and hugely convenient idea raises a passionate hope that over many years two people will not only like and help one another, manage their domestic finances reasonably well, perhaps raise a family, have enjoyable holidays, understand one another’s problems, schedule cleaning rotas, put up with each other’s failings, see each others’ parents and friends and pursue their careers in harmony, but they will also be devoted and exciting sexual partners, endlessly entwining and recombining, sometimes being gentle and slow, at others, brutal and urgent, travelling together on a shared, life-long erotic adventure. It’s this sublime idea that begins to torment us when – as is the case in almost every relationship – sex starts with time to get at once less intense and less frequent, more cautious and more frustrating, more at odds with daily life and eventually definitively more daunting as a prospect than reading a book, watching the news together or simply going to sleep. This can appear nothing short of a catastrophe, a sign of monstrous failing and very often a prelude to a break-up. And yet the problem is not ours alone. It is simply that almost everything that can make love go well seems primed not to make sex go well – and vice versa. We are afflicted by a fundamental misalignment in the qualities of character and spirit required by good sex on the one hand and successful love on the other. A relationship cannot survive in the long term without tenderness, soberness, practical intelligence and selective resignation. We have carefully to fathom another’s motives, explain our moods, overcome hurts and sulks and assume a mantle of predictability. Sex on the other hand, in its most dramatic, thrilling versions, demands that we be heedless, decadent, perhaps cruel or untenably submissive. It can involve the crudest language and moments of sublime degradation. In having to suffer from feelings of inadequacy around what happens in long-term love, we are the victims of major cultural failure: the failure of our surrounding culture to continually stress a realistic picture of an unavoidable tension between two crucial yet incompatible themes of existence. In a wiser world, we would collectively admit that the very rare cases where love and sex did run together were astonishing exceptions with no relevance whatsoever to most of our lives. We would instead learn to pay admiring attention to those who had accepted with a reasonable show of dignity and grace that the natural price of long-term togetherness is a decline in the quality and frequency of sexual contact – and that this is, in a great many cases, a price very much worth paying.
google translation: 浪漫主義文化給長期關係帶來的巨大負擔之一，就是愛情和性滿足，如果事情正在按照他們的意圖工作，就必須始終巧妙地融合在一起。這個美麗而又極其便利的理念引發了一個多年的熱切希望，兩個人不僅能夠互相幫助，合理地管理好自己的財務狀況，還可以養家糊口，度過愉快的假期，了解彼此的問題，互相看待對方的父母和朋友，和諧地追求自己的事業，同時也是性伴侶，無休止的纏繞和重組，一起旅行共同的，終身的色情冒險。當這種崇高的想法開始折磨我們的時候，就像幾乎所有的關係一樣，性開始時間不那麼緊張，不那麼頻繁，更謹慎，更令人沮喪，更多的是與日常生活相衝突，最後更明確地說更多令人望而生畏，遠比看書，一起看新聞或者乾脆睡覺。這似乎不是什麼大災難，一個可怕的失敗的跡象，往往是一個分手的前奏。然而問題不是我們自己的問題。簡單地說，幾乎所有可以使愛情順利的東西似乎都不是為了讓性生活順利，反之亦然。我們受到性方面所要求的品格與精神與成功的愛之間根本的錯位的困擾。如果沒有溫柔，清醒，實際的智慧和選擇性的辭職，長期的關係是無法生存的。我們仔細揣摩別人的動機，解釋我們的情緒，克服痛苦和煩躁，並承擔起一個可預測的地位。另一方面，性在另一方面，在其最戲劇性，驚心動魄的版本，要求我們不注意，頹廢，也許是殘忍或不服從順從。它可以涉及最粗糙的語言和崇高的退化時刻。在長期的愛情中，不得不忍受周圍的不適感，我們是重大文化失敗的受害者：我們周圍文化的失敗，不斷強調兩個關鍵但不相容的生存主題之間不可避免的張力的現實圖景。在一個更加智慧的世界裡，我們會集體承認，愛情和性共同運行的非常罕見的情況是驚人的例外，與我們大部分人的生活沒有任何關係。相反，我們反過來會學習對那些接受了合理的尊嚴和恩典的人的讚賞，以致長期團結的自然代價是性接觸的質量和頻率的下降 – 這是一個偉大的很多情況下，價格非常值得支付。
Welcome aboard to the Reading Club in NTNU!
Oh my goodness, i cant tell how happy i am, there is no words for me to express. but i still got to say that our reading club has lunched now. Well actually it’s yesterday, our class sister Chun Yi gather we classmates to join the reading club, she hope that we can read more, study more and be a real master degree student. well i am totally agree with her, i have been study(or read) by my own for more than ten years. i read one after one book, year after year and that’s all, nothing happen. Why is that, cause i haven’t been any proved or called test, i ain’t got any certification. so in the past i was a reader, and now i am a reader too, and for the future i will be a reader as well. Nothing happen.
What i am trying to say is that i am not to read for any prove or certification but i want make my reading or learning more efficiency and more constructured, therefore i can see things clearly and know what will be my next steps.
All right, i am happy anyway, i thanks for the Chun Iy sis and all the classmates who have help the reading group was born.